Regardless of the term, connecting with someone over text has become increasingly common, especially in an age when our phones never leave our side. Although making a move via text may seem a bit impersonal, it can be an excellent way to test the waters of a new relationship.
Sexting is the perfect foreplay; It’s a fun, flirty way to stay connected with your partner. It keeps sex on your brain all day and adds a little adventure, which re-creates that loving feeling from early in your relationship.
We’ve put together some of the best sexting secrets to help you flirt online;
1. Sexting doesn’t have to be just texts and visuals
You can also incorporate the voice recording feature into your routine, and for this you can use an app like WhatsApp. Make it as natural as possible. You have to force sexy voices to end up being more humorous than they are helpful in arousing.
Sometimes all you need are sounds of you playing with yourself to get your partner off. Close your eyes and imagine your partner doing all the things to you sexually that you love. Record the sounds you would make and send it off with confidence.
2. Put some effort into the visuals
Angles play a vital role when taking photos and recording video during sexting. The visuals are the bread and butter of sexy texting and can make or break the experience. Take pictures from angles that only reveal the erogenous zones of the body (mouth, neck, bust, thighs, abdomen, booty, feet, pelvic area).
Just how provocative you get with the photos is up to you. Taking photos where the camera is angled from above and looking down onto your bust is a good example. If you are a woman, take pictures of your booty from the bottom up to make it appear as if it’s in his face. If you are a man, take photos of yourself with lighting coming from the top, so you look more ripped in the photos. Make these changes and you photos will look more seductive. If you are worried about security, there are many apps that will encrypt your messages. You can also find plenty of sexting websites you can use for sexting depending on your needs.
3. Timing is everything
It’s best to be aware of what you’r partner’s doing when you want to initiate. If they’re out to lunch with the family, or having their weekly meeting with the boss — not the best time to roll out a steamy sext. If you send a teaser photo, make sure it is very subtle and not completely nude, you don’t want them to open it in a public place.
If you’re not sure what your partner is up to, try sending a simple “Hey, you busy?” text to let you know if it’s a good time. If you want to make sure they are available for sexting you can always schedule your sexting for after business hours.
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4. Take it slow
Sexting is all about the build-up, Begin the conversation with an opening that indicates you’re ready to play without revealing too much. Sending a selfie of your cleavage, for example, with a simple message of ‘Hey you’ can grab their attention while making your intentions clear of what this thread can become if the person is willing to answer back.
When it comes to sex, go five times slower than you think — the same goes for sexting. You don’t want to jump straight into sex without a warm-up, neither treat your sexts the same way.” She suggests easing into your sext dialogue with an I keep thinking about how hot the other night was” text, and gradually building from there.
5. Remember you’re playing a role
When initiating sexting, you must remember that you are in control and you are playing a role. Your role is that of a playful partner who is horny and ready to get into something freaky. Your words, photos, and voice messages can all be used to paint a fantasy for your partner and arouse them to the point of satisfaction.
6. Don’t stray too far out of your comfort zone
Only do what you’re comfortable with, Sexting can be as innocent as a ‘Can’t wait to love on you tonight’ or as risqué as a nude selfie. Start with something that makes you just a little uncomfortable — but doesn’t make you want to run and hide.
7. Give your partner a heads up before sending a nude
When sexting a photo, start with NSFW (not safe for work), then hit return a few times, and then input the photo, This ensures the picture doesn’t pop on your beau’s lock screen and lets them look at it when they aren’t in a potentially embarrassing or professional moment.
8. Keep some sexy pics locked and loaded in your library
Keep a set of stock selfies, so you don’t have to deliberate in delivering an image. You want responses to be quick and lively. For this set of photos, try using an app like Private Photo Vault that allows you to secure your pictures with a PIN lock.
10. Know the emoji sex code
Using emojis that are known to serve as sexual innuendos can help set intentions without saying a word. The eggplant and banana are often used to represent the penis. A peach represents the booty. A pussy cat references to a vagina. The emoji with the tongue sticking out indicates desire, and the raindrops mean wetness or ejaculate. Knowing emoji sex code can help maintain a code of conduct if you’re sexting in public.
11. Have fun with the dirty talk
Talking dirty is the guiding light of sexting. The words you use in your messages paint a visual of the fantasy that’s unfolding. You can describe what you’re wearing. You can ask your partner for naughty photos to make comments about their body and the freaky things you’ll do to him or her.
However, you can describe how your body is reacting to what he’s sexting you. Your words can also give instruction on what you want your partner to do to themselves while they fantasize about you. You’re leading the way toward their orgasm. Make it count.
12. Don’t get too technical
Using euphemisms and ‘slang’ in place of medical terms for sexual acts and body parts sound sexier when your partner is reading it back. Even if you feel weird typing out the word “cock” at the moment, it will sound good in his head when he’s reading your text. Preparing this vocabulary in advance will help you become more fluid in your sexting delivery.
Sexting is a form of teasing where you hold the power. Milk it!